lavenderpoetrycafe:
Do you have any resources for
someone facing sexual harassment in the work place?
He has not come onto me,
but will rub my shoulders sometimes as he walks past. Or has asked me very
inappropriate questions.
I do not want him to get in trouble, but I feel like
it’s wearing on me. He’s part of management, and I’m the front desk girl. He’s
known the owners & my coworkers for 15 years. I’m the youngest there being
21 & they are all 35 and older.
I feel intimidated to bring it up because
he will convince everyone I took it the wrong way and it will make me look bad.
#LAVENDER sisterhood answer:
Welcome to living under “Patriarchy”!
Every woman in the workplace will deal with this same situation. This is the reality of the work
environment you, we, us must live in.
You can do the right thing and lose your job. You can be labelled a trouble maker like Anita Hill or Erin Brocovich. There is glory in pushing feminism forward but you can’t fault a woman who puts her children’s financial stability first.
Who is your role model?
Some
endured great rejection for their choices and file cases. Others endure demeaning work
environments for years for the greater good of their children’s living environment.
Which fits your personality & self-esteem better?
For me, I dreaded going to work. Due to my prior assaults, it felt like my secretarial chair was my cage and I was bait waiting for his attempts to assault me. I fought, lost, and left my job. My health did not allow me to tolerate it for long.
You have flexibility to make your life better,
you just don’t have the power to magically zap the patriarchy & misogyny
out of your work environment.
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YES, I want you to stand up for yourself,
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BUT, it’s
emotionally exhausting on your mental health
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HOWEVER, I promise you, there’s another
one right behind it, so you might as well start to practice, standing up for yourself & others at work, if you want this to end
But I realize you want a concrete answer:
Try this test. Go to management or human resources and gently say some of your observations. Whatever their first reaction is? that is your answer.
If they double-down on defensiveness, the entire company will protect him and simply say you are sorry and leave the office with your tail between your legs. Minimal career damage. Abort.
If they take you seriously and say they will look into it. It may trigger them to just “talk to him” and that will be enough because most companies don’t want to be sued.
You Won! … but there’s always caveats
If he’s an older man, he’ll be insulted and possibly verbally vindictive. Patriarchy “has been know” to punish via perceptions of your work performance. Shifts get cut. Mistakes are brought to your attention.
EQUALITY presently means you have the right to sit across from a lawyer trying to convince them to take your “hostile work environment” case.
It starts with EOE but they only take big company cases and default all the others to “yes you have a case, go find a lawyer.”
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"I'm still that teenage runaway with a scholarship ... lol, I got a Masters' Degree from NYU, but no high school diploma ... "
Actress * Director * Singer * Songwriter Cali Lili skipped several grades (having been tested as reading at college level in grade school) took her first college course in the entire works of Shakespeare, at age 13, never graduated high-school, never even went to a prom, was swooped up, landing at NYU, then completed her Masters' Degree on full scholarship with awards / stellar reviews for early works.
The Cali Lili ™ Band recorded a completely original stand-alone "Urban / World / Rock © " styled Singer-Songwriter Debut Album which forms the core of the soundtrack for her debut feature film :
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She made the feature length narrative motion picture with an ALL FEMALE production team.
'eVe N'god this female is not yet rated ™ ' is perhaps, the first ( or one of the first ) production of it's kind : a theatrical feature length motion picture, in which the technical production roles employed only women during principal photography. She began pre-pre-production on this "fempoword™" project in 2010, including rehearsal footage.
Cali is told that she was born "early" and "on the water." Having experienced an extremely difficult childhood, she does not revisit those days, and often speaks out against abuse.
Born of multi-cultural heritage, Cali is keenly aware and concerned with what she sees as a form of "tribalism" too often employed as "nationalism." Cali writes about these issues and acts accordingly when it comes to her public image.
Cali adores being an actor and takes that craft very seriously, but found herself turning down 3 acting offers, that she felt were disempowering to women, in order to "turn up" what she calls fempower (TM) by scraping together "half a shoestring budget" to build her "green" "off-grid," upcycled "surfshack" feMt0™studi0 in the "floating" neighborhood of Venice Beach in Los Angeles, California where she makes "Signature" auteur Motion Pictures, Albums and Books, "TinyMultiMedia™️ HandMade2MakeADifference™”©
Based on the quality of her work as an artist, and her uncompromising dedication to excellence, she then raised modest financing for her upcoming Slate of Motion Pictures, Albums, and Books.
She works from the Cutting Edge Of The Pacific ™" @ The Cali Lili Indies ™ " where she stays "afloat" connected with her love and devotion to "rippling waters of the world"
Cali's degree included extensive studies in anthropology as well as performance techniques from all over the globe. She holds an added background of intense New York studies in dance /choreography.
Cali is proud to share her deep connection with "Mother Africa." She is greatly inspired by African culture, the cultures of Oceania, and that of her other diverse intercultural studies.
Cali's quote :
"We all originate from one mother in Africa, the Ocean is our collective unconscious, so let us honor each other, our mutual mother, our waters, and our blue mothership, earth. In doing so, we save ourselves "©
Cali's films are inclusive of lgbtq characters and the authentic real lives of these characters. She also delves into the reality of "being female" and a "multi-cultural blend" who "appears to be white," in a biased world.
Cali's career in movies began as a teenager, flying back and forth from NY to LA, while working as an "au pair."
As a kid, she "raised herself" in spite of an abusive childhood and vowed she would never marry, but she married her male partner in 2012, contrary to gossip that they were married earlier.
The partnership between Cali and Wings is unique and her work / films reflect upon relationships and gender / orientation / politics in culture and society in the 21st Century .
Womens' Rights, Human Rights, Feminist, Lesbian, LGBTQ and Bi-Sexual matters are included, along with other Social Justice and Environmental Justice as part of her projects, sharing stories about the authentic lives of characters navigating the "waters" of the 21st Century.
With legendary 'Edward G. Robinson as one of the distinguished members of her ancestry, Cali dedicates herself to honoring a tradition of excellence and earning her "place" as an up-and-coming young artist.
She has been granted the rights to the favorite novel of legendary 'Zane Grey (I) by Grey's son Loren Grey ( writer and educator) for a film adaptation in which she will co-star.
As a young Indie Performer and Creator, Cali and her partner, veteran actor 'Wings Hauser' along with Cali's team of handpicked skilled film and music professionals, are producing a growing catalogue of original films and songs.
Cali is already busy in preps for the next green-lighted project, using her proprietary methodologies as described in her book "The Declaration of IndiePenDance™"
In the past, Cali previously worked in a collaboration agreement deal with Academy Award winning Dutch producer, 'Hans de Weers' (Antonia's Line) which ended when Cali realized it was time to build her own tiny studio, in order to make projects that empower Women, LGBTQIA , Civil Rights and Climate Science communities.
Her wish is to continue sharing her heart with the hearts of the beautiful fans she hears from, daily.
We here at GTA Management, hope you will take some time to support her works.
( GTA Management Biographies )
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