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DeMystify The Dictators As Mentally ill #Abusers global #AbuseOfPower ; #Healing Happens ©2014-2022 #Democracy’s genius “Balance Of Powers”

Demystify The Dictator as Bully Abuser with Mental Illness

The Victim’s Remedy

To End Tolerance For Pathology 

This essay was originally published in 2014 as a meditation on my Oscars 2020 Contender “eVe N’god this female is not yet rated™” ©

When maybe,

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The Dictator as Bully AbuserThe Victim’s Remedy is To End Tolerance For Pathology


©by Cali Lili™2014

Dear World,

It is time to Recognize, Understand, and Remedy with Alacrity : the very Simple Cause for Abusive Conditions under which so many innocent people suffer.

The Pathological Psychology of a State Dictator is that of any other Common Bully, Emotional Abuser, Physical Abuser …

Please let us apply the Same Common Sense Remedies for any other case of Abuse

The Same Remedies applied Upon receiving the Abused Family Members into a Safe House or Shelter can be applied globally

The Stakes are catastrophic if we neglect this Mental Wellness for : Our Global Family

At the very simplest psychological level – the solutions are so clear ….

Like any Culture or Group of People oppressed by The Dictator – the Family Members of an Abuser suffer unimaginably, the daily agonies of tortures – … both physical and psychological in nature

These agonies damage victims for generations …

Unhealing Wounds paid forward into the future … generation after generation … scarring, savaging the humanities of us all as the wound becomes encoded genetically

In a never-ending cycle of misplaced tolerance for pathology.

Democracy’s genius lies partly in it’s foundation of “Balance Of Powers” ; Absolute Power is a certain path to Abuse Of Power whether it be exacted on an individual, family, nation, economy, or planet.

The Survivors’ Wisdom teaches :

Survivors of Domestic Abuse, Child Abuse, Workplace Abuse know – Abuse of Power requires enabling by those who amplify and ultimately enable the authoritarian to speak at their victims, stealing the Voice of The Victim by appropriation of the victim role – while alienating friends and family – to isolate and deny the victim from rescuers.

Jealous of unattainable excellence and of love they feel denied – the abusers’ self-soothing tool is abuse of any power in their capacity, whether it be the smallest or the greatest effect – they are so powerless to heal their own malady, they seek to exact revenge on any thing , any one willing to tolerate or enable the rampage.

The rampage, sometimes an unconscious mechanism unknown to the Abusers themselves, can seem quite innocuous, even laughable at first. But with time, enabling, tolerance of little pathologies at first … Then – by increments … Absolute Power is the goal of their dis-ease …

By chaos and by faking victimhood – the abuser obfuscates and obstructs justice and healing. The abuser dictator derives relief of their own pain, by causing suffering in others. Their only destination is death and the ceasing of their own pain, but they are too sick in their ego’s selfish quest to prove their superiority, to harm themselves, so they harm everything in their environment in a quest for personal glory.

Please let us End Our Tolerance for Pathology and Begin the Remedy with the very same Basic Common Sense used to protect an innocent child from the Pathology of her abuser.

If We Numb ourselves into delusive agreement with Toxic Apathies, lulling ourselves into the Oblivion of a Depressed World View that holds it impossible to end war, abuse, hate, torture … – then what?

Then by abdication, we have accepted our own Demise through knowing and willful Sufferage of Pathology and Abuse

If we accept Such Sufferage for another, then by definition, we accept it for ourselves …

To see this truth – is one step toward Global Mental Wellness and therefore – one step toward the remedy of a condition that literally plagues us

Global Mental Wellness Assures Global Physical Survival by our admission and acceptance of the Larger, Kinder and Most Practical Truth …

That Truth is of our Unlimited Potential … to counteract the equally unlimited pathologies of the Abuser …

Global Mental Wellness is vital to our survival and perhaps we ignore and discount it because most cultures do the same with individual Mental Wellness

Via Global Mental Wellness we will have access to these Remedies :

It is Possible to access our own Toxic Emotions as individuals and also as Cultures, Societies, States, Countries …

It is Possible for us all to Detoxify, Remedy, Improve, Heal our own Behaviours when we know we have crossed a line

It is Possible to Recognize Early Warning Signs of Impending Events via Understanding the Mechanism of Abuse and the Psychology of The Abuser

… and

It is Possible and Necessary,

To Say “No” in the Very Earliest Stages of any impending Abusive Event,

It is Possible and Necessary,

To Say “No” most often with Non-Violence

It is Possible and Necessary,

To Say “No”

Whenever a Dictatorial, Abusive presence rears its ugly head across our own boundaries

It really is – Possible.


Right Now.

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#HealingHappens We Can #DeMystify #Dictators As #Mentallyill #Abusers #DictatorAsAbuser #DictatorAsMentalillness #HumanRights #EndWar #NoH8 Possible 2 Remedy From Dictators by Understanding The Pathology of Bully Abuser … There-by Ending Our Tolerance For Pathology