The Survivors’ Wisdom © Abuse of Power is Child Abuse is Domestic Violence

War Is Abuse  Is War

The Survivors Knowledge

©Cali Lili™2014

Like Survivors of War,

Survivors of abuse,

Whether Emotional or Physical,

Instantly recognize the build-up,

Escalating tensions that lead to war.

From the Personal To the Political,

We lack that Extra Layer of Comfort,

Stripped Away,

As a Result of Experiences that none of us

Should ever need to claim.

Although garnered by pain,

There is a Survivor Strength

We Possess,

And a Wisdom,

HyperVigilance and Sensitivity,

Like an Alarm that awakens us

And Everybody in our midst.

DeMystify The Abuser as Terrorist Dictator  ;

The Chain of Human-KIND is STRONGER Than Our Weakest Links™

Domestic Abuse + ChildAbuse are Dictatorial Terrorism

In order to Demystify The Abuser

We Must Understand him and his Cronies

As Terrorist Operatives

His Need for Dictatorship as Mental Illness

The Victim’s Remedy is To End Tolerance For Pathology

©by Cali Lili™2014

Dear World,

It is time to Recognize, Understand,  and Remedy with Alacrity :  the very Simple Cause for Abusive Conditions under which so many innocent people suffer.

The Pathological Psychology of a Terrorist / Dictator is that of any other Common Bully, Emotional Abuser, Physical Abuser …

Please let us apply the Same Common Sense Remedies for  any other case of Abuse

The Same Remedies applied Upon receiving the Abused Family Members into a Safe House or Shelter can be applied globally

The Stakes are catastrophic if we neglect this Mental Wellness for : Our Global Family

At the very simplest psychological level – the solutions are so clear ….

Like any Culture or Group of People oppressed by The Dictator – the Family Members of an Abuser suffer unimaginably,  the daily agonies of tortures – …  both physical and psychological in nature

These agonies damage victims for generations …

Unhealing Wounds paid forward into the future … generation after generation …  scarring, savaging the humanities of us all as the wound becomes encoded genetically

In a never-ending cycle of misplaced tolerance for pathology.

Please let us End Our Tolerance for Pathology and Begin the Remedy with the very same Basic Common Sense used to protect an innocent child from the Pathology of her abuser.

If We Numb ourselves into delusive agreement with Toxic Apathies, lulling ourselves into the Oblivion of a Depressed World View that holds it impossible to end war, abuse, hate, torture … –  then what?

Then by abdication, we have accepted our own Demise through knowing and willful Sufferage of Pathology and Abuse

If we accept Such Sufferage for another, then by definition, we accept it for ourselves …

To see this truth –  is one step toward Global Mental Wellness and therefore – one step toward the remedy of a condition that literally plagues us

Global Mental Wellness Assures Global Physical Survival by our admission and acceptance of the Larger, Kinder and Most Practical Truth …

That Truth is of our Unlimited Potential … to counteract the equally unlimited pathologies of the Abuser …

Global Mental Wellness is vital to our survival and perhaps we ignore and discount it because most cultures do the same with individual Mental Wellness

Via Global Mental Wellness we will have access to these Remedies :

It is Possible to access our own Toxic Emotions as individuals and also as Cultures, Societies, States, Countries …

It is Possible for us all to Detoxify, Remedy, Improve, Heal our own Behaviours when we know we have crossed a line

It is Possible to Recognize Early Warning Signs of Impending Events via Understanding the Mechanism of Abuse and the Psychology of The Abuser

 … and

It is Possible and Necessary,

To Say “No” in the Very Earliest Stages of any impending Abusive Event,

It is Possible and Necessary,

To Say “No” most often with Non-Violence

It is Possible and Necessary,

To Say “No”

Whenever a Dictatorial, Abusive presence rears its ugly head across our own boundaries

It really is – Possible.


Right Now.

~ ~ ~

on her be-half

by ©Cali Lili ™ 2013, 2014, 2018

child – hood

a  nightmare stood


all in my head

always nervous

i’m no good

the other kids

they seem so calm

how they do?


i want the fun

i want 2 be the brat

how  they do



all in my head

all ways nervous

i’m no good

they seem so calm

i the dread


no place


workin’ harder ’cause,





there’s the sound

the living room this time

where death is never

far away

i’ve got 2 find out

why she stays

but first 

i get

Him Off Her Back

there goes the Sm-ACK

i get Up

in between them



don’t U

see the WRONG?



stop it

stop it

till my tiny voice

is gone

my mouth is open

there’s no sound

i cry myself to sleep



i could not

fight the cruel

still have to take the test

take the test at school

beg mom

Leave Him



get in between them






i try

2 Keep





2 Save


she won’t go.

she turns on me



now i’m bad the bad one.


the mirror

ice her brow




I know

The Kind of Stuff

No kid Should ever Know


i know.

I go.

Leave bad enough alone.

On Her Behalf

does she 


does she even know  ? 

she doesn’t know?

it’s now or never

tiny voice

my mouth is open

there’s no sound.



tiny voice

my mouth is open

there’s a sound

i sing my songs

i write some wrongs

on Her Be-Half

And Yours

my Sisters’

tiny voice

my mouth is open

there’s a sound

i sing

us wishing






my mouth is open

there’s a sound

i Sing







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